Written by neuropsychologist Theresa M. Regan, PhD, CAS, this book explains how social connection actually works—and why it can feel so complex.
Drawing from more than 30 years of clinical experience and over 1,000 autism evaluations in adolescents and adults, Dr. Regan translates research into real-life application.
Inside, you will learn how to:
• Recognize the difference between task-focused and relationship-focused communication
• Strengthen conversational skills without sacrificing authenticity
• Navigate compliments, gratitude, and emotional reciprocity
• Approach conflict without falling into “all good” or “all bad” thinking
• Repair misunderstandings and rebuild trust
This book does not promote masking or changing who you are. Instead, it increases clarity—about your own communication style, about the expectations of others, and about how neurological differences influence interaction.
Whether you are an autistic adult seeking insight, a spouse or partner wanting to strengthen connection, a parent supporting growth, or a clinician working with neurodiverse clients, this book provides structured guidance grounded in compassion.
Testimonials
Regarding letter written for school: "This is so beautiful -- I have tears in my eyes. Thanks for teaching me every time we communicate." [mother of college student]
"Dr. Regan, My meeting with you during [my husband's] hospitalization three years ago was the most valuable medical appointment I've ever experienced." [spouse of a gentleman in his 60's with a first-time diagnosis].
Thank you for writing this [book] for all of us with autism in our families. It has meant so much to me personally and I pass it on to [others]... It's a very important book for an extraordinary and courageous group of people." [family member and clinician]
"Dear Dr. Regan,
We cannot thank you enough for all you have done. We know our journey is long from over, but you have at least given us closure on what is going on. We have been trying for five years to accomplish what you and your team were able to do in one visit. Forever in your debt." parents of adolescent patient
"I just wanted to say, I just received a psychological [evaluation report] you completed recently, and it is wonderful. I wish I could have you do all our psychologicals!" [service access specialist]